Dealing with everyday anxiety

Everyday Anxiety – Help Dealing With Everyday Anxiety

Everyday Anxiety

Everyone, at certain times, has to deal with the big fears in life; the death of a loved one, losing your job or becoming seriously ill, as some examples. But what we all have to deal with, on a daily basis, is everyday anxiety. The anxiety from many little fears can add up to as much pressure as the large ones, so it’s important to have good strategies in place to deal with these little fears as they are encountered, before the total amount of everyday anxiety becomes too much to handle. Burnout and breakdowns are becoming more and more common in this high-pressure, fast-paced world. Here are some tips to get a handle on your daily fears and everyday anxiety.

Everyday Anxiety Tip No1 – Let Go

This might seem like silly advice to some people, but one of the main sources of everyday anxiety is the desire to control every aspect of your life. We think that having this degree of control will lessen our anxiety, but ironically the opposite is true. Since there are things that happen in daily life (such as getting stuck in traffic and being late for work) that we simply have no control over, we have to learn to let go. It’s especially anxiety-inducing to anticipate everything that could possibly go wrong, which puts us on a constant fight-or-flight adrenaline drip. The truth is that for the things we can’t control, the best you can do is let them happen and deal with the aftermath. No amount of anxiety will change the outcome.

Everyday Anxiety Tip No2 – Learn the Difference Between Reality and Imagination

Much of our everyday anxiety comes from things that don’t even happen on that day. They come from imagining things that might have happened. Did you almost slip and fall down the stairs? Did you spend time afterwards thinking about what might have happened? Did you imagine pain and injury? Even though you didn’t really fall, your imagination (if left unchecked) can cause anxiety, that a real injury from a fall may have caused. Even if the imagined anxiety is much milder, it can still accumulate. It’s important to learn how to dismiss these thoughts. Recognise that what you’re doing is replacing fact with fiction. Tell yourself, “but that didn’t really happen, it’s just my imagination”. This may be difficult at first, but self-talk reality checks can be useful if you use them consistently.

Everyday Anxiety Tip No3 – Accept Your Anxiety

Some level of anxiety from time to time is normal. Our natural urge is to fight it, which might cause an escalating loop of anxiety feeding on itself. Just as you need to give up the idea of total control, it helps to accept that you’re feeling anxious and work from there. If you accept the reality of your anxiety, it means you can work from there to deal with it constructively. This is when traditional anxiety-reducing techniques such as deep breathing and meditation work best. Inevitably, anxiety will pass, but if you refuse to accept it and struggle against it violently, you run the risk of sustaining it much longer than usual. It’s especially important to accept what’s happening to you during a panic attack, which is when your anxiety reaches a tipping point. Accepting that you’re having an attack, whilst telling yourself that it will pass and can’t hurt you, can me immensely useful. Panic attacks are usually very short, so enduring them can actually be easier than you’d imagine.

Accepting your anxiety doesn’t mean that you’re giving in to it. It doesn’t mean that you’re being weak or giving up. It just means that you accept the reality of the situation and are ready to deal with it, in an adult and constructive way.

Everyday Anxiety Tip No4 – Don’t Judge Yourself

We’re usually far harsher on ourselves than any other person would be. That judgment is tightly interwoven with fear and anxiety. On the other hand, most of us are quite kind when we judge others. If you can learn to treat yourself with the same charity you extend to other people, you’ll be well on your way to smoothing out your everyday anxieties.

For more information about anxiety and panic attacks, visit www.mind.org.uk/anxiety

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